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Old 07-28-2018   #1
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is therapy or counseling thing effective for couples who are in that bad state?

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Can't tell without more info, and I am not sure you would be willing to provide them in a semi-public forum like this. If you are going where I think you are, I would understand your wanting a more confidential environment for providing more details, but I can't really supply one. I have no special expertise in psychological counseling.
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Well, it's not about me. Thank God. It's about my twin. I can go to general details anyway. So,ok... I caught her husband in a hotel with another woman. I called my sister and confronted him. He said he doesn't want a divorce and that the woman was a mistake. Etc etc etc the usual reasons. I do think he is remorseful and i know for a fact that my sister loves him.
I can't break them apart. People make mistakes, I know that for a fact. I suggested counseling when I read some article about it. Stupid meeeeeeeee
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Something tells me that neither your sister nor her husband felt like thanking you for this information. If they feel that they can't afford a marriage counselor and they have close association with a church, synagogue, or other such body, and they are still on speaking terms with you, you might try suggesting that both of them see the pastor/priest/rabbi for counseling.
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My sister can't go on a day without talking to me. She's crying all the time and I can't bear it. I know she still loves him but she's saying she wants a divorce. As for him, he is beating himself up, and I think it's a good thing he realized his grave sin. Something is up with their marriage - only the two of them can fix it and I know my sister has her share for this happening to them. It's not just about the affair.

I felt like one of these romance radio hosts who talk about love and marriage. hahahaha. Last night, I quoted my sister on an article i read from regain.

Your marriage will be filled with mistakes and arguments, just like any other relationship. However, by following a professional's advice, and by marrying someone you truly love, you can make the marriage last a lifetime. You love him right?

Well, there were waterworks after that. I can't do any more for them. They have to decide on this, I guess. I just want to know if what I'm thinking of pushing to her will benefit them both. I am stalking all articles I can read online about it, just to pacify my wild thoughts.
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Something tells me that neither your sister nor her husband felt like thanking you for this information. If they feel that they can't afford a marriage counselor and they have close association with a church, synagogue, or other such body, and they are still on speaking terms with you, you might try suggesting that both of them see the pastor/priest/rabbi for counseling.
Not sure about their affiliation at the present
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I don't know, are people wired right to stay with the same partner for life? Curiosity, sexual attraction and desire, the thirst for knowledge and acceptance- these things seem to be part of the human fabric, and in my mind, would seem to contradict the notion of settling down with only a single partner. It is hard.

Having said all that, I just recently celebrated my 43rd wedding anniversary. There have been plenty of road bumps along the way on both sides- infidelities, deception, and mistrust. But here we are, 43 years later, still together.

I have no clue as to how the human mind works when it comes to love....

Here is hoping the best for your twin sister.


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