How to Live with an Artist

[wildmaven]

I wrote this for my blog:

Tuesday, December 14th, 2010
How to live with an Artist by Marian Murdoch

1. Be sensitive to their need for praise. When shown a piece, talk about what you like about it, not about any flaws you may perceive. The wrong word can cause an artist to spiral into depression, ignoring their work for days, months, or even years out of fear of further criticism.

2. Artists are prone to depression, so be prepared to be there for them if they need to vent. However, some require some time alone, but watch that it doesn’t become overwhelming.

3. Give them some space. Oftentimes, the creative process requires contemplation and isolation. Don’t take it personally. Use this time to do something of your own that wouldn’t interest the artist. Later, discuss your private adventures over dinner. Show an interest, even if you can’t see what is happening behind the closed door to their office or studio.

4. Get used to stares by strangers while with the artist. An artist sees the world differently than most of the general public. They will gawk for hours at the shimmer of light upon a building or how the wind gently moves a fold of fabric.

5. Learn to read their body language and moods. Interrupting a creative thought can be disastrous to a work in progress so watch for signs that indicate a break in their thoughts before attempting to communicate.

6. Don’t ask to see an unfinished piece of work. If the artist wants to show you, they will show you. The creative process is very private. If they do show you an unfinished piece, consider yourself honored that they felt they could trust you enough not to make a sarcastic or negative comment.

7. Get used to a mess. It is a rare artist who is concerned with keeping a neat space. The concern of an artist is the finished product, not the debris they leave behind. Even their non-work spaces can suffer from clutter. Whatever you do, do not move anything of theirs. Artists know where their things are, and if the objects are moved, it can cause frustration and alarm.

8. Most artists don’t care about finances. As long as they are fed and warm and have a place to work, they are happy. Sometimes they are clueless as to how much something costs, or the general health of their financial situation. A gentle reminder from time to time may be necessary to keep them within budget.

[kkart]

This is just dead on the money. Thanks for sharing this!

[jerryph]

Made me chuckle because so much of myself was in there... lol

Now, if only I could learn how to be a GOOD artist... well then life would be grand!

Have a little carma, it was well worth it!

[TheRoaddog]

I copied an' pasted this to a word doc. Will share w/my Wife. Thanx!
RI

[jerryph]

What was the blog address again?

[prohobo]

My initial thought is, I'm not an artist...

Then I read this and thought, maybe I just have found the artist inside.

That whole post is me on a normal day, used to bug the hell out of me when my mom would get frustrated and straighten up my room. I don't know how many times I've stared at puffs of smoke, or a diamond ring...

Hmmm...

[wildmaven]

Originally Posted by kkart

This is just dead on the money. Thanks for sharing this!

You're welcome!

Originally Posted by jerryph

Made me chuckle because so much of myself was in there... lol

Now, if only I could learn how to be a GOOD artist... well then life would be grand!

Have a little carma, it was well worth it!

Thankies for the Karma!! ((hugs))

Originally Posted by TheRoaddog

I copied an' pasted this to a word doc. Will share w/my Wife. Thanx!
RI

Hope it helps. My husband read it and said, "you wrote this for me, didn't you?"

Originally Posted by jerryph

What was the blog address again?

WildMaven’s World

Originally Posted by prohobo

My initial thought is, I'm not an artist...

Then I read this and thought, maybe I just have found the artist inside.

That whole post is me on a normal day, used to bug the hell out of me when my mom would get frustrated and straighten up my room. I don't know how many times I've stared at puffs of smoke, or a diamond ring...

Hmmm...

Sounds like an artist to me!! Welcome to the club!

[scoundrel1728]

I was tempted to write, "On the other hand, maybe it's better to avoid relationships with artists." I wouldn't want to live with someone like that. Then I noticed that I am like that.

[ritewinger]

My youngest offspring is a phenomenal artist, however I break a few of your rules. He can't be sloppy, use abusive language, and there are times a certain look has gotten him the wrong kind of attention. However, I am sensitive to his need of praise......

[12step]

There is a fine line between artist and a bi-polar disorder...lol.

Yeah I agree with most of what was posted. I'm a pisces so those are many of the same traits. I will say that depression is not a problem for me but the opposite, anxiety disorder.


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