[SyCo]

I don't mind the over the shoulder stuff just be sure to tell annoying guests (or wedding party) that you've been hired at considerable expense so please don't be the one that ruins the photos. Some people are just idiots (or drunks) though and need to have a word. Stop the shoot walk over and quietly talk to them. They'll be as embarrassed as all hell and you get kudos for dealing with them in a respectful manner.

I agree that the BnG shouldn't be dealing with this on their day. That's why you find the wedding party 'mouth piece', the group joker or natural leader (not always the best man sometimes not even the in wedding party), there is always one. Find them, talk to them and give them the responsibility of keeping order. If someone gets out of hand. Simply give them a nod, they'll jump right in for you. They are also great for assembling the people for group shots. If I have to raise my voice excessively then I'm doing something wrong.

Walking off the job is IMO a terrible idea. You'll loose a lot more $$ in bad rep points and lost bookings then you would ever make in post print sales.

You can be forceful without being bossy, just expect people to do what you say! Don't negotiate, stand your ground and don't take any crap. Standing, waiting and saying nothing is really a powerful way to deal with issues, when done right (with attitude!!). Do you remember the school teachers that used to do that? They got respect! The ones that shouted and screamed were jokes.

I give the BnG the option of buying a CD/DVD of prints with BnW and Sepia versions of all photos (processed through a PS action for the vast majority). You still make your extra cash pre wedding and the stress level is nothing compared to fretting about the lack of after wedding sales.

If all else fails shoot into the sun so all the PnS flashes are woefully under powered!